10.09.2025
10.02.2025
to sit out in the sun, and listen
If it exists, the America I love may be on the ball field and in the choir room.
And if there are answers in poetry, Hoagland's "The Word" suggests we find the time to do both, that among our duties, pleasure is a thing that needs accomplishing.
9.25.2025
don't blink
The ground is wet, finally, and the air smells of marigolds. It is officially fall but the zinnias have not given up their shades of sunset. The boys are underslept and overschooled and it is not even October. There is so much to do, and such a fine line between being better - at being a student or being a parent - and being happy.
Out front the boys inspect each other's eyeballs, comparing colors and laughing at their own reflections. Out back they refill bowls with taco soup and talk about the books they're reading, about the genetic incompatibility of hares to breed with rabbits. Andy seems to have had strong ink in the printer, eye pigment and appetite and interest in biology all around.
There are so many household particulars to sort, college visits and halloween costumes, computer repairs and pants that fit for homecoming. Things go from feeling logistically impossible to emotionally brutal to financially chaotic, until I find myself studying the irises of my boys. Are they amber or hazel or that color the poets call bistre? My usual inclination is to iron out all the details, but I'm wondering more about resting in the complexity some too.
9.18.2025
enough
I am mostly dealing with a frayed nervous system by reading poetry and taking walks, closing tabs and opening windows. Except this morning there are two hawks hunting in the side yard and the level of chipmunk distress is more than I can bear.
Turns out our bodies are not wired to swallow the whole planet's screams.
Aside from a voodoo doll costume project and lots of time at the harp, Hank has been primarily occupied with a spontaneous and mysterious shrine to slime, like the saline and the shaving cream have lit a fire inside him. The constant production, tupperware full of mostly sea foam shades, leave a literal trail of unfinished business out back.
It's a fraught MO, soothing anxiety by clinging to something I think I can control. But cleaning the sticky patio table feels far easier than standing in the breach against those who preach the gospel of blood and power.
People say reading novels builds empathy, and science backs this up. Studies show that when we immerse ourselves in fictional worlds, we become more prosocial in the real world — more likely to help, share, and be kind.
One of my recent favorites was Growing Home. Isn't every good children's book a work of philosophy in disguise?
Last night the boys were up past bedtime, working on pentatonic scales. It's hard to enforce the clock when the activity tethers them to something ancient, to each other, when it serves as a counterbalance to the day, to the country. Could their music be communion from a different alter?
I read a parenting advice column recently that offered alternatives to How was your day?
For example, Is there anything you've been holding onto that you kind of want to say out loud?
I kind of wish someone would ask me this question.
I am mostly just guessing at how to grow children. Borrow books and buy sheet music. Apologize for the horrors of the world and talk about love. Point at the moon and the men who speak in complete sentences with civility. Serve lemonade and listening ears and cinnamon toast.
There's a world of worry out there. Here at home three boys sleep soundly under a sea of quilts and tented novels, and for today that might be enough.
9.11.2025
shade and sunshine
There's a Longfellow poem with a line that says
Life is checkered shade and sunshine
and I can't stop thinking about that truth...
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