What would you think if a bird had a spoiler? It could go faster than a race car!
I accidentally bumped him and apologized: I was okay, Mom. You don’t have to sorry me.
It’s not really called a glitch. You said a bad word. Don’t say glitch.
After acknowledgment of new skill: My brain taught me that. Isn’t my brain awesome? It’s so amazing!
Fingers tapping face: I was whistling my nose like a flute!
Tuck coming at him with a kung fu sword: I’m unslice-able!
Will you read Billy Gruffs Goat again?
Deep in side McDonald’s playland, dip-faced and travel weary, talking to a new friend: Her name was Celia but she died.
Time to tidy the play kitchen: My kitchen gets clean automatically, it does it by itself.
Morning sunlight, mouth chomping open and closed in midair: I’m trying to catch all the dust for ya, but it moves so fast.
Hey, I got an idea. Let's go to the strawberry pick park tomorrow.
6.09.2015
6.07.2015
more AZ trip details
I wanted to make note of a few things, kind of family album style, so as not to forget.
Red Rock Crossing:::
The boys might have spent the whole week throwing rocks into Oak Creek if we'd let them.
Tucker turned everything on the trip into a math problem. How many states will we fly over? How many minutes are in four hours? How many inches long is a trout fish? If it's six AM in Sedona, what time is it in Ohio? He got to use some of his Spanish language skills and learned what words like mesa mean. He grew his geography knowledge and map reading abilities. And on the last day, he finally caught a lizard!
Rainbow Trout fishing:::
Fay Canyon:::
The boys hiked the trail past the natural arch ALL the way back to the rockfall, where it dead ends, so two and a half miles total. There were LOTS of breaks for food (oranges and Doritos and water and salami and peanuts and M&Ms...) and even more breaks to draw in the dust and to kick the dust and to pick up the dust and let the wind blow it out of their hands. By the time we reached the car, Tollie was sucking on a juice box like it was a pacifier. And all four of us were covered in dust.
Slide Rock State Park:::
This was our favorite spot in Sedona, and the one thing we did twice. Slide Rock is just what is sounds like, a stretch of slippery creek bottom. The water was frigid, but all four of us worked up the courage to slide down the slick chute. And the boys all braved jumping into deeper parts from rock ledges! We spent most of our time at Oak Creek Canyon wading in shallow pools, trying to catch lizards and avoid snakes.
Pink Jeep Tour:::
The Broken Arrow trip came highly recommended, and did not disappoint. The boys LOVED the thrill of Devil's Staircase and thought the "round about" at Mushroom Rock was fun. Our guide was super, full of interesting facts and funny stories, and almost enough patience to field two hours of Tuck's questions. We all enjoyed learning about "cowboy killers," and appreciated the risks and the safe return.
Chapel of the Holy Cross:::
Cathedral Rock:::
Tolliver developed a real fondness for Aunt Cherie's clipboard of scrap paper — he carried it around and took "notes" all week. He napped with it. On Saturday he took it with us to Cathedral Rock and drew pictures of lizards and even wrote his full name for the first time sitting in the shade where the trail splits. Once he had energy to resume walking he asked if we’d get him his very own clipboard with a green pen just like hers. When we said Yes, of course, he asked if we’d get him a house just like Cherie's too, with two bedrooms and a big white tub and a long deck in Sedona. We decided we’re pretty lucky she doesn't mind sharing her space!
We've been home for a few days now, blessed by our time away, by our time together.
Now we're turning our thoughts toward a summer that looks long and a little bit lazy and just lovely all around.
Tolliver's been on an airplane before, but was too small to remember. This time the pilot invited him into the cockpit and gave him permission to touch whatever he'd like.
I'm afraid he may be confused about his name now though. Airport security asked for it, and, not shy at all, he said Tollie. But the paper said James. And if that wasn't puzzling enough, after last week I'm pretty sure he thinks his last name is careful, middle initial B. As in "Tolliver, be careful! Please don't get too close to the edge/to the cactus/to the barbed wire/to the fishing hook/to the possibly venomous snake." Tolliver B. Careful!Red Rock Crossing:::
The boys might have spent the whole week throwing rocks into Oak Creek if we'd let them.
Rainbow Trout fishing:::
The guy who cleaned the fish for us put the still-beating heart on the ledge for the boys to look at. And then he ate it.
The boys hiked the trail past the natural arch ALL the way back to the rockfall, where it dead ends, so two and a half miles total. There were LOTS of breaks for food (oranges and Doritos and water and salami and peanuts and M&Ms...) and even more breaks to draw in the dust and to kick the dust and to pick up the dust and let the wind blow it out of their hands. By the time we reached the car, Tollie was sucking on a juice box like it was a pacifier. And all four of us were covered in dust.
"T" for Tolliver!
*Tuck took this shot with the camera remote!This was our favorite spot in Sedona, and the one thing we did twice. Slide Rock is just what is sounds like, a stretch of slippery creek bottom. The water was frigid, but all four of us worked up the courage to slide down the slick chute. And the boys all braved jumping into deeper parts from rock ledges! We spent most of our time at Oak Creek Canyon wading in shallow pools, trying to catch lizards and avoid snakes.
Honanki Heritage Site:::
It was closed. At 3 PM. So we snuck around.
The Broken Arrow trip came highly recommended, and did not disappoint. The boys LOVED the thrill of Devil's Staircase and thought the "round about" at Mushroom Rock was fun. Our guide was super, full of interesting facts and funny stories, and almost enough patience to field two hours of Tuck's questions. We all enjoyed learning about "cowboy killers," and appreciated the risks and the safe return.
Tolliver developed a real fondness for Aunt Cherie's clipboard of scrap paper — he carried it around and took "notes" all week. He napped with it. On Saturday he took it with us to Cathedral Rock and drew pictures of lizards and even wrote his full name for the first time sitting in the shade where the trail splits. Once he had energy to resume walking he asked if we’d get him his very own clipboard with a green pen just like hers. When we said Yes, of course, he asked if we’d get him a house just like Cherie's too, with two bedrooms and a big white tub and a long deck in Sedona. We decided we’re pretty lucky she doesn't mind sharing her space!
Now we're turning our thoughts toward a summer that looks long and a little bit lazy and just lovely all around.
6.06.2015
another Awareness Weekend
Her first breath took ours away.
When she was born, we were euphoric. And she was extraordinary. It was like a baby girl had never arrived so perfectly, red hair, long eyelashes, porcelain skin, chubby thighs. She was beautiful. That’s secondary, but still. She was the kind of pretty it almost hurt to look at.
We knew so little then, about the fragility of life, about the endurance of love. Sometimes, now, seeing that innocence in other people sucks the air right from our lungs. They may never know. How lucky to never know.
Celia left here long before the day she died. Bits of her faded and fell away, disappeared altogether. We watched her life unravel, we watched our daughter suffer and then we watched her die.
Her last breath took ours away.
Did you have that reaction when you heard about Batten Disease, the one I think most humans get, especially parents, that Please, never, not me, not my kid aimed fast at heaven - combined with the red-hot empathy that slices through you when you understand a nearby soul has already fallen into one of your worst fears, and for them it is real and forever?
Maybe you’d like to give to BDSRA. Give so that her suffering, so that your sympathy, can become another family’s salvation. When awareness is turned into action, when it is followed by funding for research, science can unlock mysteries that may improve the lives of many.
Put your money where the miracles are, let your dimes and dollars help deliver the breakthrough we believe in. Visit www.bdsra.org to contribute online.
And if you can’t do that? Tell a friend about Batten Disease or whisper her name to the wind, but please, breathe a little life into her story today.
When she was born, we were euphoric. And she was extraordinary. It was like a baby girl had never arrived so perfectly, red hair, long eyelashes, porcelain skin, chubby thighs. She was beautiful. That’s secondary, but still. She was the kind of pretty it almost hurt to look at.
We knew so little then, about the fragility of life, about the endurance of love. Sometimes, now, seeing that innocence in other people sucks the air right from our lungs. They may never know. How lucky to never know.
Celia left here long before the day she died. Bits of her faded and fell away, disappeared altogether. We watched her life unravel, we watched our daughter suffer and then we watched her die.
Her last breath took ours away.
Did you have that reaction when you heard about Batten Disease, the one I think most humans get, especially parents, that Please, never, not me, not my kid aimed fast at heaven - combined with the red-hot empathy that slices through you when you understand a nearby soul has already fallen into one of your worst fears, and for them it is real and forever?
Maybe you’d like to give to BDSRA. Give so that her suffering, so that your sympathy, can become another family’s salvation. When awareness is turned into action, when it is followed by funding for research, science can unlock mysteries that may improve the lives of many.
Put your money where the miracles are, let your dimes and dollars help deliver the breakthrough we believe in. Visit www.bdsra.org to contribute online.
And if you can’t do that? Tell a friend about Batten Disease or whisper her name to the wind, but please, breathe a little life into her story today.
6.04.2015
Arizona
I flagged about fifty of the few hundred photos we have from our trip to Arizona as favorites, and am still trying to narrow them down to share. The red rocks make for a pretty stunning backdrop. In real life we did not lose track of him, but looking back at pictures it's easy to see how much Tolliver blended in with the landscape - his coloring gave him natural camouflage. See?
The boys didn’t walk along the rocks as much as careen. We spent the whole week in Sedona with zero obligations, our sole responsibility to keep the boys away from cliffs. And to keep them hydrated. And to keep them from finding a pet rattlesnake.
It’s always an adventure to learn about parenting in a different climate (similar math problems, different variables) and always a treat to feel more available, to really listen to the questions, to read aloud another chapter, to let them help with dinner and leave the mess for later. Another vacation bonus: there's always time to let them find their own freaking shoes.
You know how you feel when you find yourself in a situation that feels both lucky and kind of perfect? We were able to make this trip mostly due to Aunt Cherie's generosity - she let us stay at her house and drive her vehicle all week, and we felt especially fortunate to have lists of what to see and what to do, what to avoid on the weekend and in general, where to eat, where to cool off. A top notch photographer, we realized that several of her very best pictures could have been taken right off her back deck, where we had morning coffee and afternoon naps and evening drinks.
Our trip was a good reminder that the earth overflows with miracles that require only our attention, that entire ecosystems thrive with each species taking just enough. That our best response to the generosity of the world might just be to pay attention.
From Instagram:
all four at Oak Creek Canyon
trout fishing (I don't want to embarrass any #betzboys, but only one of us caught any fish)
Sunday morning at Chapel of the Holy Cross
Red Rock Crossing
Submarine Rock, Broken Arrow tour
Slide Rock State Park
#gingercamo
Cathedral Rock
And, one more post, with photos and details about our adventures, to come.
The boys didn’t walk along the rocks as much as careen. We spent the whole week in Sedona with zero obligations, our sole responsibility to keep the boys away from cliffs. And to keep them hydrated. And to keep them from finding a pet rattlesnake.
It’s always an adventure to learn about parenting in a different climate (similar math problems, different variables) and always a treat to feel more available, to really listen to the questions, to read aloud another chapter, to let them help with dinner and leave the mess for later. Another vacation bonus: there's always time to let them find their own freaking shoes.
You know how you feel when you find yourself in a situation that feels both lucky and kind of perfect? We were able to make this trip mostly due to Aunt Cherie's generosity - she let us stay at her house and drive her vehicle all week, and we felt especially fortunate to have lists of what to see and what to do, what to avoid on the weekend and in general, where to eat, where to cool off. A top notch photographer, we realized that several of her very best pictures could have been taken right off her back deck, where we had morning coffee and afternoon naps and evening drinks.
Our trip was a good reminder that the earth overflows with miracles that require only our attention, that entire ecosystems thrive with each species taking just enough. That our best response to the generosity of the world might just be to pay attention.
From Instagram:
all four at Oak Creek Canyon
trout fishing (I don't want to embarrass any #betzboys, but only one of us caught any fish)
Sunday morning at Chapel of the Holy Cross
Red Rock Crossing
Submarine Rock, Broken Arrow tour
Slide Rock State Park
#gingercamo
Cathedral Rock
And, one more post, with photos and details about our adventures, to come.
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